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“The father buys, the son builds, the grandchild sells, and his son begs.” Scotland

“Rice paddies to rice paddies in three generations.” Japan

“Clogs to clogs is only three generations.” England

“Wealth never survives three generations.” China

“Shirtsleeves to shirtsleeves, in three generations.”  United States


It’s a common phenomenon around the world. Family businesses rising like a phoenix from the ashes, powered by an entrepreneur’s vision and passion to do something better than what existed, transition to the second generation who work to preserve the wealth, only to see the family business return to the ashes from which they rose three generations earlier.


What happens?  Why do so few of all family businesses survive to the third generation?  And how do you improve your odds?


Let start by understanding the lexicon of family business.


The first generation, G1, is known as the entrepreneurial generation.  This is where the business starts, typically driven by a strong entrepreneurial founder who risks everything to bring their vision to life.


The sibling generation, or G2, is where ownership transitions to the children of the founder.  Love, power, and money influence the family dynamics considerably. Things can get complicated as sibling rivalry or divorce can rear its ugly head, and the entrepreneurial spirit of G1 can start to fade.


Enter G3 ­– the cousin federation. The G2 children have had children and these cousins begin to enter the family business. If you thought G2 was complicated, G3 can sometimes feel like the wild west.  Family values, politics, religion, and personal beliefs among the cousins can vary considerably, sometimes creating rifts and divides between the branches of the family.

In the Western culture, we believe ‘winners and losers’ are determined by social and cultural factors, but with the “third generation curse” so universal, it appears human nature itself is playing a big role.


Most founders (G1) of multi-generational family businesses surmounted significant adverse odds to survive. The founder’s children (G2) were often close enough to the early life of the family business to see the struggle behind the reward. Some G2 “left the farm” so to speak, while others felt compelled to take on the responsibility of preserving the wealth and legacy of the family business started by their parents.


By the time G3 comes along and the data tells a harsh story. Impatience, irreverence and a sense of entitlement before responsibility enter the picture.  Its members often feel that the family fortune has been built and preserved for them and that they are, unquestionably and without restriction, entitled to it.  I’ve heard, “It’s my god-given right” more than once.


This needs to be said and for some, it will sting – most G3 members have had a comfortable youth and adolescence, and often are not as motivated as their predecessors to work harder than their peers for what they want.  Often G3 view their predecessors through the lens of these prior generations’ lifestyles rather than recognizing the sense of purpose, passion, hard work, and sacrifice that made these lifestyles possible in the first place.


Another factor is that life expectancies have steadily increased in most of the world.  As generations last longer so do their control of the family business, leading G3 members to become impatient to assume the privileges that they perceive previous generations to have effortlessly created and enjoyed – without understanding the responsibility.


And there are simply more mouths to feed in G3.  If you haven’t designed any governance in the business about who gets to come into the family business by the third generation, the business is not sustainable. Last name or lineage alone should not mean a fast track to a paycheck in the business.


What can a family business do? Recognize the dynamics of building a multi-gen business, then design and implement family governance. While this is ideally done before G2 steps in, it’s imperative before the cousin federation enters the ranks. Family business governance includes things like a family constitution, a board of directors, and a family council. Click here for a brief overview of each of these family business structures.


For a multi-generational family business, the challenge is real. Only 33% of family businesses make it to G2, only 12% of G2 businesses make it to G3 and a meager 4% will survive past G3.


Beat the odds – and the G3 curse. Build a governance plan and ensure those mouths are fed for generations to come.

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